Yes, it has been over a year since I last blogged. I had been struggling with some personal and relational issues which took my attention. I have learned that I need to be in a more grounded frame of mind in order to write.
Yes, I have continued to be working in the MH field as an outpatient therapist and to explore other ways to market my book. I am trying to network with agencies or companies in my area to do workshops for parents/caregivers and MH professionals.
I am modifying the format of the next series of entries to be more of a list format of things that I learned and/or observed this past year or so.
For parents & other caregivers:
- Make an effort to take care of yourself–physically, emotionally, mentally, socially and spiritually so you are being as healthy as you can be. Raising children can be draining in the midst of other life responsibilities. Remember that you are teaching your children about taking care of themselves by how you take care of yourself.
- Keep in mind that “if nothing changes, nothing changes” for you or your family related to whatever areas of life you may be struggling with.
- Modify your approach sometimes to help your children feel heard and supported by you as they try to figure out who they are in the world.
- Try to not take your child’s actions so personally when responding to misbehavior or excesses of behavior. Most likely your child is trying to explore what he/she has control of and/or the limits of what he/she is able to say or do as part of the process of discovering who he/she is as an individual. Your child might also be trying to get your attention to help him/her feel more safe and secure. The world can be a scary place.
- Build your connection with your child by engaging in child-centered activities on a regular basis. Get in touch with your playful inner self as you do this. NOTE: This does not take away from who you are as the adult. Your actions help children learn the difference between when to be silly and childlike and when to be serious.
I look forward to hearing about your experience of putting these into practice.